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The Top 10 Signs of Infidelity
and
Why They WON'T Help You
Catch Your Cheating Spouse
by Ruth Houston
infidelity expert, founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com
and author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs
If you’re relying on the top 10 signs of infidelity to determine whether or not your spouse is cheating on you, you’re in danger of being misled.
This is one of the most unreliable ways to find out if you have a cheating mate. Jumping to conclusions based solely on the presence or absence of a handful of signs can be a fatal mistake. Consider the two experiences below
How Felicia Almost Divorced an Innocent Man
For months Jeff had been acting strangely. Fearing the worst, Felicia searched the internet for one of the many lists of top 10 Signs of Infidelity. Jeff displayed half the signs on the list she found.
• Frequent, unaccounted for absences
• Unusual or unexplained charges on the credit card bill
• Suspicious phone behavior ( hang-ups, whispered calls, calls taken in another room)
• Money missing from the bank account
• Coming home late from work
Convinced that Jeff was cheating on her, and too embarrassed to discuss it with family and friends, Felicia found an attorney and had him begin drawing up divorce papers. Meanwhile, she secretly began making plans to move out within the next 6 months.
The following month, for their 10th anniversary, Jeff surprised Felicia with a lavish party which included all their friends and presented her with tickets for the Mediterranean cruise Felicia said she always wanted to take. The telltale signs Felicia had mistaken for signs of infidelity were all related to Jeff earning extra money and making arrangements for the anniversary party and the cruise. Fortunately, Felicia found out the truth before the divorce papers were served, or she might have made a terrible mistake.
Why Rachel Was the Last to Know
One day Steve came home from work and told Rachel he wanted a divorce. He confessed that he’d fallen in love with the woman he’d been seeing for the past 18 months, who was now expecting his child. Rachel was in complete shock. She was totally taken by surprise because Steve had never displayed a single one of the top 10 signs of infidelity.
Searching the internet for answers, Rachel came across a book entitled Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs. She immediately ordered it because she was anxious to know what signs she could have possibly missed. Before Rachel got halfway through the book she found 37 subtle signs of infidelity that she had actually seen, but never realized that they were indications that Paul was having an affair.
Don’t Be Deceived by the Top 10 Signs
Finding one or more of the top 10 signs of infidelity doesn’t necessarily mean that your spouse is cheating on you.
Not finding any of the top 10 signs of infidelity is no guarantee that you have a faithful mate.
Depending solely on the top 10 signs of infidelity can either lull you into a false sense of security, or cause you to falsely accuse an innocent mate. It’s impossible to accurately assess something as serious as infidelity on the basis of a mere 10 signs.
As you can see from Felicia’s experience, there could be many reasons why an innocent spouse might display one or more signs from a top 10 infidelity list --- reasons that have nothing to do with infidelity.
On the other hand, a cheating spouse like Steve who carefully covers his or her tracks might not display any of the top 10 signs of infidelity at all. It doesn’t take much effort to cover up 10 signs. I’ve consulted with countless men and women whose cheating spouses initially escaped detection because they covered up all the obvious telltale signs -- the so-called top 10 signs of infidelity.
Assuming that your spouse is not cheating because you don’t see any of the top 10 signs of infidelity, practically guarantees that if he or she is having an affair, you’ll end up being the last to know.
21 Areas of Concern
Most people fail to realize that there are literally hundreds of signs of infidelity. Some are quite obvious, but most of them are subtle and easy to overlook. And no two cheaters display exactly the same telltale signs.
To accurately assess whether or not your partner is having an affair, rely less on the top 10 signs of infidelity, and focus on 21 areas of concern. Someone who is cheating, or on the verge of having an affair will display clusters of telltale signs from several of the 21 areas below:
• Physical Appearance – 76 signs
• How Your Spouse Relates to You – 70 signs
• Conversational Clues – 70 signs
• Work Habits – 39 signs
• Day-to-Day Behavior – 92 signs
• Financial Affairs – 52 signs
• Travel – 27 signs
• Personality Changes – 36 signs
• Absences – 39 signs
• Telephone Tip-offs – 76 signs
• Car Clues – 40 signs
• Sex – 37 signs
• Eating Habits – 31 signs
• Tastes and Smells – 21 signs
• Invasion of Your Home – 22 signs
• Gifts – 19 signs
• Computer Use – 30 signs
• Cell Phones and Pagers – 28 signs
• Physical Evidence – 32 signs
• Behavior Around Members of the Opposite Sex – 71 signs
• Accidental Slip-Ups and Disclosures – 57 signs
A Sure-Fire Way to Find Out If You Have a Cheating Spouse
As you can see, each of the 21 areas of concern contains multiple telltale signs. These 21 areas are a far more accurate indication of infidelity than the popular lists of top 10 signs..
Signs of infidelity never appear in isolation. Where there’s one sign, there are usually at least 50 others just waiting to be found. Knowing what to look for is the key.
If your spouse is really cheating, expect to find numerous signs from several of the 21 categories all at once. It’s impossible for any cheater, even a cautious one, to cover up every single sign.
Every cheater displays numerous subtle signs of infidelity that they’re unaware of, and thus would never think to cover up. It’s important to know what to look for since no two cheating spouses exhibit exactly the same telltale signs.
Forget the top 10 and Focus on the Tried and True 21
Don’t be misled by the top 10 signs of infidelity. Focus instead on finding multiple signs of infidelity from the 21 areas of concern. This tried and true method will keep you from falsely accusing an innocent mate. But it will ensure that if your spouse is really cheating on you, he or she will definitely be exposed.
The 21 areas listed above correspond to the 21 categories of infidelity signs covered in Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to cheating women as well as cheating men. This is the only infidelity book on the market that covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. This is a far more accurate indication of a cheating spouse, than the top 10 signs of infidelity.
FREE Report on the 21 Areas of Concern
To request a free special report with detailed descriptions of these 21 areas of concern and an overview of the kind of telltale signs each category contains, e-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with the words 21-report-ws in the subject line.
About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of “Is He Cheating on You?-829 Telltale Signs”. Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times and numerous others, and has been a guest on The Today Show, CNN, Fox News, NBC News, and over 355 radio and TV shows worldwide. For more information about infidelity, cheating spouses or extramarital affairs, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com or Ruth Houston’s blog at http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com To interview Ruth Houston, call 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
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