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The workplace ties with the internet as the #1 place where cheating husbands, wives, and lovers meet willing partners for extramarital affairs. According to one study, 72% of cheating men and 42 % of cheating women met their affair partner at work.

If you suspect workplace infidelity and want to find out if, your spouse or significant is romantically involved with someone at work, the office Christmas party is the ideal opportunity to find out he’s having a workplace affair.

The first thing you need to do is get invited. Cheating spouses and significant others employ numerous tactics to keep their partners from attending the company holiday party, including:

• Not inviting you, or not even telling you about the annual Christmas party, or not giving pertinent details such as when and where the holiday party is being held Solution: Don’t wait for him to tell you. Call his job or one of his co-workers to find out.

• Trying to discourage you from attending by telling you it will be boring, you won’t enjoy it, you won’t know anybody there, etc. Solution: Ignore these excuses and go anyway.

• Telling you the party is for employees only, when it’s not. Solution: Don’t take his word. Find out for yourself. Double check with someone who works with him. As a last resort, call Personnel or the Human Resources Department and ask.

• Telling you at the last minute, knowing it will be too late for you to find a sitter, shop for a new outfit, have your hair and nails done, etc. Solution: Be prepared. Line up a sitter who can be available on short notice, put an outfit together now, get your hair and nails done in anticipation of the big event, and make other necessary arrangements well in advance.

The Surprise Guest - Camille’s live-in boyfriend, Doug did his best to discourage her from attending his company Christmas party by telling her all the reasons she probably wouldn’t enjoy herself. Camille decided to surprise Doug by meeting him there anyway and found that Doug had invited another woman to be his guest.

The Cheating Spouse Who Never Showed - Gerard waited until the day before to tell Sheila about his office holiday party, figuring it was too late for her to make arrangements to attend. Sheila sprang into action, made the necessary arrangements and showed up anyway, only to find that Gerard wasn’t there. She stayed until the party was over, but Gerard never showed up and was unreachable by phone. He arrived home 2 hours after Sheila with an elaborate story about how great the party was and how he had to off drop a co-worker who was too drunk to drive.

Off to the No-Tell Motel - Even though Vanessa confirmed that the Christmas party at Carl’s job was restricted to employees only, she showed up around the time the party was scheduled to end. From her car Vanessa watched Carl husband leave the party with his arm draped around a female co-worker. They were so engrossed with each other that they didn’t even notice Vanessa as she followed them to a nearby motel.

• Introduce yourself. Let other employees and their guests know who you are. Someone may be dying to tell you about your cheating husband’s affair. This time every year I get a few phone calls and e-mail from women who want take a co-workers wife aside and tell her that her husband is having an affair. . While it’s true that some of these women are motivated by jealousy or spite, many of them have been victims of workplace infidelity themselves, or simply feel sorry for the unsuspecting wife and feel she has a right to know what’s going on. Is there someone at the party who seems to be trying to get your attention? Someone who keeps glancing in your direction trying to catch your eye?

• Keep your eyes and ears open. Stay alert. Be observant. You never know what you might see or hear. Gina knew that that her husband Barry had been putting in long hours at work for the past 6 months. She was well aware that the project Barry and Alex had been working on required many phone calls back and forth, late night meetings once or each week, occasional weekends, and a couple of business trips. Imagine Gina’s surprise to find out that Alex was an attractive young woman, not a man as Barry had led her to believe. Meeting Alex at the party and observing Alex and Barry together left no doubt in Gina’s mind as to what kind of project they had been working on.

• Listen to the office gossip. Drinks usually flow freely at most Christmas parties, and alcohol has a way of loosening tongues. Who seems surprised to find out that your husband is married, or that your significant other is already in a serious relationship with someone else? One wife overheard the following comment at Her husband’s Christmas party: “That’s his wife? He’s married? I thought he was seeing Maureen.”

• Observe the behavior of his co-workers. Do they appear to be uncomfortable in your presence? It could be that they feel awkward because they know an affair is going on. Is someone trying to avoid you? It may be the person with whom your husband is having an affair. At Richard’s office party, Ashlee noticed that one of his female co-workers kept glancing in their direction. Kelly, the woman in question was openly hostile towards Ashlee when they were finally introduced. On one occasion when Ashlee returned from the ladies room, she found Richard and Kelly engaged in a heated discussion which they abruptly broke off when Ashlee reappeared. By asking a few discreet questions and comparing the answers with what she already knew, Ashlee was able to confirm that Richard and Kelly were indeed having an affair.

• Observe his behavior - Does he rebuff simple gestures of affection from you at the party? Pull away, not wanting to hold your hand? Leave you standing or sitting alone for long periods of time? Make no effort to introduce you to his co-workers? Behave as if you’re not even there?

• Verify some of the stories you’ve been told. Engage others in conversation. You may find that his boss knows nothing about all the overtime your husband claims to have been working, or the special project that took up all his weekends for the past 3 months. You may discover that there really was no 3-day conference in Boston last spring.

• Use the party to your advantage. Make friends with the women he works with, or the wives or girlfriends of men on his job. Exchange phone numbers, if appropriate. It may come in handy one day if you need to check whether or not he’s really working late or taking a business trip

If your husband is having a affair with someone at work, there will be numerous telltale signs. Their body language and behavior around each other will give them away. But knowing what to look for is the key. If re not sure what to look for request a FREE copy of the tip sheet entitled What to Look for at the Office Christmas Party if You Suspect a Workplace Affair. E-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “Christmas party-gws” in the subject line.

Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of “Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs” which covers practically every known sign of infidelity including the subtle signs people usually overlook . Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, FoxNews.com, ABCNews.com, Maclean’s, Cosmopolitan, Chatelaine, Reuters, Associated Press, UPI, and numerous other print and online media.

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