Childhood Fantasies
When I was a young lass before I learned to read
I played with dolls dreaming of the children I would raise
Thought how much fun it would be if my dolls came to life
Giving me the pleasure I hoped my parents received from me.
As I grew older and so much wiser I learned that dreams
And their fantasies could not always be brought to fruition.
I learned that love could turn sour, abusive and fearful
Instead of the dreams most kids felt with their parent’s love.
I was never the princess I heard stories of or dreamt of
Never was I made to believe that I had any worth.
Even when I grew up and was out in the world alone
Had no sense of fulfilling any of my childhood dreams.
Isn’t it a shame that one person alone can destroy
All these dreams with a simple gesture or word
Beating one’s body and ego trying to make them a copy
Of their fantasies never allowing the child the freedom to choose.
My father for many years tried to make me into a dependent lady
Never understanding the fact that I was more independent.
He felt that girls should only do housework, raise a family
And be subjected to the discipline of the men in her life.
I guess he grew up in a family where his mother was the boss
So he went out of his way to insure his daughters would be.
He married a domineering wife, my mother, by accident
As I am sure he never realized just how independent she was.
Once they were married, he sure learned she had a mind of her own
She was never going to be the dependent wife he wished for.
My mother was raised to think for herself and Dad could not handle
Nor could he accept that his daughters could be like her.
Now I am alone, both parents are dead, and my fantasies so dear
Were simply buried in the fear of the beatings I took as a child
When I tried to show my own way of thinking and philosophy.
Never dreaming that my fantasies would die and fade to nothing.
I hope all parents today allow their children all the use of dreams
Nurture their fantasies while still instilling in them the values of life
Things of reality need to be taught without the destruction of dreams
Reality and dreams can be made to mix without destroying the egos.
Written by A. Haffey 6/18/98