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A MEMORIAL TRIBUTE TO MY SON

JEREMIAH LYMAN TENNYSON


June 5, 1981 - August 16, 1998

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Jeremiah's Eulogy
As delivered by his Dad, Don Hull

I had intended to talk to you today about the hard life that Jeremiah had to live. I thought that you all new most of the good things that happened to him because most of you made it happen. But because Jeremiah was a blessing on my life, I wanted you all to know all about him in order to truly appreciate him. But that's not right thing to do.

We come here today to honor Jeremiah; to celebrate his life; to share in the wonderful memories we all have of him. So let me take a moment to tell you about some of the lasting memories I have of him.

I remember the first moment that I saw him. I remember the little boy who wore these shoes.

The foster family agency was a two story building and the second floor was had an exterior balcony to go from office to office. As I got to the top of the stairs, I saw this little figure of boy, so skinny and small. As I walked to the other end of the building to go inside, he followed me, keeping pace, never taking his eyes off of me. Then as I opened the door to enter, he said to me, "Are you my new dad?". That was the beginning of a loving relationship.

I remember the little boy who I would call out to, Super Boy. He would turn towards me, run down the hall, and at the last second would jump into my arms.

I remember the little boy who would come out to the patio on a weekend morning, while I was having coffee, and crawl up into my lap. We would just snuggle and talk about the day ahead.

I can remember the little boy who would come into the living room at the end of a day and would snuggle up next to me on the couch. I'd say, "Jeremiah, I love you" and he'd say "I love you for infinity".

I remember the little boy who loved playing baseball and soccer. I can remember him wearing these shoes and as he would run down the soccer field, his long hear would fly back as he would run hard to attack the ball.

I remember the little boy who loved to wear my old flight boots and would eventually outgrow these, because he became a man.

When Jeremiah was born prematurely, he weighting a scant 2 pounds and 14 ounces; just a handful of love. But immediately, the Lord gave him his first task and he lived. I believe that the Lord put Jeremiah on this earth for a purpose. And after the Lord tested and tempered the boy, when the Lord was finished with his work, He took the man.

There is probably enough guilt and grief in this room to fill a church. Mike and Lease, our prayers are with you both but let us ALL give thanks to the both of you, for giving us Jeremiah, for giving us our time with him.

Thank you Barbara. Jeremiah thought you were very special and you were his special friend. Thank you for being there for him; thank you for comforting him.

Thank you Mom for being there and for your unconditional love for him. You were always there for him and he knew that. When asked how Grams and I were able to put up some of his challenging moments, just remember that if you loved him, he returned the love 10 fold.

And to Jeremiah, you were the light of my life; and you gave me purpose for living. The hurt is deep but the love and memories are eternal and Jeremiah, I'll love you for infinity.

Let us remember what a loving and confident child and man he was. He was always so confident and would often walk up to a group of strangers and act as if they'd been waiting for him all along. "Thanks for waiting, guys, let's play now".

(The words from the song "I Believe I Can Fly" from the movie "Space Jam" were read by Don)

If Jeremiah could see it, then he could do it.
If you could just believe it, there's nothing to it.

I believe you can fly. I believe you can touch the sky.

I think about it every night and day.
Spread your wings and fly away.

I believe you can soar.
I see you running through that open door.

I believe you can fly.
I believe you can fly.
I believe you can fly.


Jeremiah, I love you for infinity.


(The song "I Believe I Can Fly" was played here. Then Bishop Sam Scheibler gave some closing remarks and the song "Tears in Heaven" were played to conclude the services.)


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The Story of Jeremiah
A Celebration of His Life

Jeremiah was a very special boy, though probably just as special as any child is to any parent. He had many more challenges than any kid deserved but maybe not so unusual for a foster child. This is his story.

The world was blessed when the union of Leasa Marie McKenzie and Michael Steven Tennyson resulted in the birth of Jeremiah Lyman Tennyson. He was born on June 5, 1981 at the Queen of the Valley Hospital in West Covina. The family returned to their home in Redding, California.

When Jeremiah was 3 years old, his mother's parents passed away and it was difficult for Lease to take care of him by herself. His Aunt Carrie (they called her Carebear) would help the family by making breakfast and getting him and his older, half-brother, Michael, ready for the day.

One day, Jeremiah's dad, Mike Tennyson took Jeremiah to live with him and his wife, Kathy. Later, Jeremiah and his dad left that home. Eventually, Michael's dad came to get, separating Jeremiah and Michael.

Life was tough for Jeremiah. He told me of how they slept in the back seat of his dad's car and how much fun that was. But that was really okay for Jeremiah as he was with someone who loved him and whom he loved. It didn't matter where Jeremiah lived because he was with his dad.

Jeremiah Leaves his Dad and the Foster Home From Hell


Realizing that he could not care for Jeremiah as well as he should, Jeremiah's dad sent Jeremiah live with the paternal grandparents. He stayed there for about one year. A very active child, he was a bit too much for his grandparents and, regrettably, the family was able to place him in a foster home. A new home; new rules and the loss of another family. He was about 6 years old then, going into 1st grade.

His new foster family was composed of two natural children and two other foster children, however, the foster children were grievously taken care of. At Christmas, they bought gifts for their two natural kids while the three foster kids could only watch as there were no gifts for them. Imagine that pain.

They didn't take care of Jeremiah well either. The school would call and complain that Jeremiah was trying to get attention by eating out of the trash cans at school. He wasn't trying to get attention; he was just hungry. He was a survivor and was just trying to get by.

Our First Meeting


The first foster home had their license removed and Jeremiah came to live with me in Ontario, California at age 8 on April 4, 1990. It was love at first sight. When I got to the agency to pick him up, I had to walk up exterior stairs to the second floor where I saw this skinny kid looking out the window at me. I had to walk along the balcony to the other end of the building to get the entry and this skinny little kid kept following me along inside. I opened the door and Jeremiah's first words were "Are you my new dad?" He was so small and skinny that I nicknamed him "Germ".

My mom, Olive (a.k.a. Grams) fell in love with him right away. After we moved to Brea, I asked her to move in with us help to take care of him.

During his first few weeks with me in Ontario, Jeremiah told us he wanted a new bike for his birthday; just two months away. He'd never had a new one. Naturally, we bought him his first new bike but to make him miserable, he didn't see it right away. He opened his other presents but was obviously disappointed that he didn't get his bike. I had hidden it in the garage and he was so very excited when we took him into the garage for "one more present".

I had heard the horror stories about foster kids. I had been told how they acted out and the terrible things they did, but he did none of those things. I thought he was a perfect child, loving and respectful. One day, he told me he loved me and I responded that I loved him even more. He thought for a minute and came back with, "Dad, I love you for infinity". He may not have know how long infinity was, but he knew it was a long time. From then on, we would write notes or just say that we'd love each other for infinity.

We moved to Brea and our life continued.

Our Life in Brea, California


A normal, active kid, he was active in soccer and little league, as our living room will attest. He most often gave it his best, and I can still remember how his long hear would fly back as he ran down the field. When our friend, Sal, competed in a marathon to run in San Diego, Jeremiah and I met him. One morning, we went down to breakfast and after he finished his, he came around to my side, sat on my lap with his arms around me. What makes the memory even more endearing was that a lady at the next table got my attention and said, "You and your son really look cute together" and, indeed, we were very affectionate towards each other.

The Terrible Teens


We moved to Brea and Grams moved in with us. At 13, his hormones kicked in and he became unmanageable. He was hanging with the wrong friends and they gave him bad counsel. I was surprised at how strong peer pressure was and it overwhelmed our family. Grams and I were devastated when we had to take him to McKinley Home for Boys in San Dimas. Another family separation.

He was there about 1 year but even with our weekend visits, ran off a couple of times, always finding he way back to us; his way back home.

A Dream Comes True


At 14, he came home and our lives were filled again. At about age 15, his life-long dream was realized when he was reunited with him mother, Leasa. It was his dream, so we had to let him live it. But what could be better than reuniting with his mom? Just add brother, Michael. Soon after Jeremiah joined his mother in Redding, California, so did his brother Michael.

The Return Home


After he was reunited with his mom, Adam and Jacob came to live with us. Jeremiah stayed with his mom for about 1 year and came back to visit us in Brea that lasted almost 6 months. He slept on our couch to the chagrin of the Social Workers.

He got into some legal problems while here and a fellow Kiwanian, Attorney Dean Hall, helped us out with that. He was put on probation but couldn't keep up the requirements as he got expelled from school the week after he was put on probation and wouldn't do the community service work required, picking up trash in alleys. The Orange Country Probation Department let him go live with his dad in West Virginia to avoid going to Juvenile Hall. Once again, he was separated from us.

Life in West Virginia


His dad, Michael, was elated with the idea. He couldn't wait to get him into school and continue where he left off almost 10 years prior. Things went well for Jeremiah for a short time and the he got back into his same old routine of not going to school. He absolutely hated school probably because he was so far behind the other students that it made him feel bad. Finally, Jeremiah's social worker had him put into a group home from which he ran away.

Jeremiah Returns to California


I was leaving for work early one day but picked up the phone when it rang. It was a collect call from Jeremiah. Normally, he would call collect, we'd refuse and call him back at his dad's house. So I refused the call, and called his dad's number. His sister answered and she said Jeremiah had run away. "My God, what have I done", I thought. Jeremiah was stranded somewhere and I refused his phone call.

Fortunately for me, Jeremiah called back and told me he'd run away but was still in West Virginia. He wouldn't give his number. I had to go to work and he called back and talked to my mom whom he'd always called "Grams". He was calling from Anaheim!

Grams picked him up, fed him and bought him some clothes. He hadn't eaten on the three day bus ride across the US except for one meal a lady provided him, finding our he was hungry. She many never know how much this simple kindness met to those who loved Jeremiah. God bless her.

The Road to Arizona


He met Ron the last time he was here so he stayed with Ron's family for about one month in Brea. Ron got offered a job in Arizona, working on an artichoke farm. He asked Jeremiah if he wanted to go and being a runaway, he said yes. Ron promised him $100 per week plus room and board. He actually got $25 per week and was quickly disenchanted. But he was a survivor.

"Dad, I Want to Come Home"


Jeremiah and I had talked from my work on Wednesday, August 12, 1998. Jeremiah and I decided that I would send him a bus ticket and he could come back home. He would talk to the owner's of the artichoke farm and find out what city they would drive him to in order to pick up a bus. I was leaving for the Kiwanis convention on Friday but we'd talk on Sunday upon my return.

I was at a business meeting in Sacramento, California, which started on Sunday at 1:30. At 1:35, I got paged to call home and Grams told me that our baby was dead.

Jeremiah, Ron and Donny (the owner's son) when hunting on Saturday. On Sunday, they were cleaning a rifle so the owners wouldn't know they used the guns. Jeremiah was always fascinated with guns and he and I would go to the Brea Firing Line a few times.

While his friend Donny as cleaning one, a shell got caught in the chamber. Donny wasn't able to remove the bullet Jeremiah took the rifle. As Jeremiah pulled it towards him, apparently Donny's little finger hit the trigger and Jeremiah was shot in the face, the bullet traveling up his nostril.

911 was called at 9:15 am. The paramedics told Donny and Ron that Jeremiah was still alive when he was helicoptered out to the hospital but his heart gave out half way there.

We believe that he was probably killed instantly, but his strong athletic heart kept beating as long as it could.

Such a tragic, senseless ending to a tragic life. Life is almost unbearable right now as I remember that little kid who used to come out onto the patio while I was having coffee on a weekend morning and would crawl up onto my lap and put his arms around me.

God Bless you Jeremiah. I will love you for infinity.

Dad



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Grams with Jeremiah just before we went to see him in his Christmas play on December 5, 1991.


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Dad knows that the place of every hair is very important.



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Jeremiah with his friend, Barbara, at Disneyland. Jeremiah is pushing Jacob's head out the the picture in the left hand corner.


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Jeremiah could always manage a smile for Barbara. She is taking this picture with Adam on the right.



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Christmas morning in 1990. How could a kid be happier?


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This picture of me helping Jeremiah was taken on January 16, 1991.




Click Here to hear Jeremiah's birthday message to Grams.This sound file is not very loud so you'll have to turn up your speakers. Jeremiah and I bought Grams a picture frame on which we recorded a short voice message from him. He recorded this for Grams' birthday in 1994. Jeremiah was staying at McKinley Boy's Home in San Dimas. He was 13. Ask Grams how old she was.


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