Starting in 1779 and continuing in 1782 and 1785 we find Benjamin living, not in Little Creek Hundred with his family, but in St. Jones Hundred, so it is possible he was married around this time although we do not know the name of his first wife.

Based on Kent Co. Orphans Court Records, it was sometime after 1791 that Benjamin married Elizabeth Hansor , daughter of William and Bridget Hansor. With this marriage to Elizabeth, Benjamin acquired what was left of Jolly's Neck Farm, the Hansor family homestead founded in 1735 by William Hansor and located along the present Rt. 100, west of Rt. 13.

The Hansors and the Durhams had known each other for years. William Hansor arrived in St. Jones Hundred c.1735 to establish Jolly's Neck Farm and the Durham family had arrived about the same time. William's third wife, Sarah, had probably been a Durham (possibly the sister of John Durham). Jolly's Neck Farm was in St. Jones Hundred and Benjamin had been living in St. Jones since before 1779.

Based on the will of Benjamin's son, Daniel Durham, we know that there were at least 2 children from his first marriage: Daniel and Elizabeth. Since Handsor Durham, the son of Benjamin Durham and Elizabeth Hansor Durham , married in 1815, he was probably born sometime before 1795.

The 1800 Federal Census lists Benjamin Durham in a household with 7 other "free colored persons". It was about this time that the mixed blood families began to be called "mulatto" or "colored" or even "negro". Up until this time there had been no mention of any racial classification attached to members of the Durham family.

Benjamin and wife #1 (name unknown) had at least the following children:

1. Daniel Durham
   
2. Elizabeth Durham
   

Benjamin and Elizabeth Hansor Durham had at least the following children:

1. Handsor Durham
   
2. Hannah Durham
   
3. Ellenor Durham
   

Sometime in 1810, Benjamin Durham died leaving no will. Letters of Administration on his estate were granted to his wife, Elizabeth and his son, Daniel with Jeremiah Concilor and John Hughs giving surity.

Elizabeth Durham died c. 1815 and Jolly's Neck Farm passed to son, Handsor Durham.