Exercises--Stop The Battles in Your Head

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EXERCISES

HOW TO LIVE THE TRUTH

BY ANGELS ONE, ANGELS OF THE LIGHT

AND REMAY

to help change patterns of thinking which do not serve your highest good.

STOP THE BATTLES IN YOUR HEAD

Those times you find yourself doing battle with someone in your head, ask yourself for what purpose are you doing battle in your head? Are you justifying your position with a particular person? Are you looking for an apology? Has this person offended you? Do you feel guilty about something you've done or said? Explore, for a moment, what the purpose of the drama in your head is all about.

Ask yourself what is the solution to this problem with this particular person. The solution which will benefit you both. This will help ease your emotional unrest with the person. When you look for the best possible outcome on behalf of the other person, who you are not feeling so good about, the feelings of anger or blame or hate or discomfort are put to the side. You cannot envision a good solution when negative feelings are in your way.

After you have acknowledged the process of your thinking and have examined how you feel about the situation, you can see a solution which will benefit the two. Now, you can let it go. Forgive yourself for permitting your mind to go so far in this warfare, forgive the person who has caused you to be uncomfortable (or whatever it is they have done), and ask God to bless you both—to fill you both with love and light. Ask God to bring a clear understanding to each party and know the outcome will be for the good of all.

The next time the thought comes to call say, "I have turned this over to God, your job is done."

HOW TO STOP WORRY

Identify those things which weigh your mind down. Is money something you worry about? Is the condition of your hair or skin something you worry about? Do you worry about your relationship with your husband or wife, girlfriend or boyfriend, mother or father, etc? You don't have to think about it, now. If you naturally worry about it, it will come back to you soon enough.

We want you to first realize worrying doesn't solve anything. Worrying doesn't bring the answers, either. People often say, "Well, if I don't think about it, I can't find the solution." The truth is, you don't always have to find a solution. When you worry about something, you are actually keeping the solution from you. When you release the problem and do not think about it, the solution has room to surface. So, not worrying leaves room for other things to happen in your head.

Whatever the worry or concern, just do what you can do. You can only do what you can do. If it's a question of money, get a job and do the best job you can do in order to make the money you need. If the job does not bring the money you need, worrying about it won't bring it, either. In fact worrying about it can cause you problems with co-workers or affect your good working habits or make you miserable to be around. In effect, you can begin to create an environment which heightens the problem not lessens it.

If it's a question about a relationship, be only what you can be in that relationship. Be loving and understanding, kind and gentle. That doesn't mean for you to be a doormat. If it is necessary for you to stand firm on a conviction, stand firm lovingly. Be the best person you can be with others. Remember to be what you want others to be to you. Listen to the other persons needs. Share your needs with the other person. Know when to walk away; know when to stay.

Do not spend your mind's time worrying over what you did wrong or what a person did to you. Don't spend time plotting revenge. Don't spend time trying to figure out how to get your point across or how to get around answering a question. These are wasted efforts.

Find peace within yourself. If you are being the best you can be, there is nothing to worry about. You are not responsible for how people react to you, remember. You are only responsible to yourself. If you are being honest and loving and understanding, you've done your best. Leave the rest up to the other person.

There are many worry incidents we could discuss, but we think you get the picture. The bottom line of worrying is, it is not a useful process. Worrying is the process of building mountains from sand hills—it only makes the problem larger. Acknowledge the worry and set it free: "I don't have to worry about you, God will take care of it. I am doing all I can humanly do. God, I turn this over to you. Help me to solve this problem and keep worry from me."

Worry will begin to disappear and in it's place, you can formulate a new pattern of good thoughts. If you find yourself worrying, just stop, release the worry, and affirm your faith in God.

STOP FEAR FROM CONTROLLING YOU

Now, fear is a great worry, but we will not discuss it as such. Fear deserves a category all of it's own. Fear is the leading cause of unhappiness. The presence of fear is the absence of faith—faith in the self, faith in mankind, and faith in God. There are a variety of things people fear: fear of talking to other people, exposing themselves, and perhaps not being liked; fear of failing because of how others will see them; fear of succeeding because of how people will treat them or how success might change them; fear of falling in love because they might get hurt; fear of sharing their emotions and feelings because it might come back to haunt them; fear of trying because they might fail; fear of reaching out because they might be rejected; fear of flying because they might die; fear of speaking up because they might not be heard; fear that what they want doesn't matter; fears of rejection, fears of being put down, fears of being ignored, fears of not counting, fears of getting hurt, fears, fears, and more fears.

We can't really speak from an experiential point of view because we are angels and have never had the experience. We can speak from an observation point, however. We have many friends in human form and in spirit form who help us to understand these fears. We have angels on earth, right now, who have taken bodies and who have lived miserable lives only to experience, for the purpose of understanding, the fears that motivate people. Thus, we have a bounty of information.

Fear like worry is a wasted energy. Fear interferes with positive outcomes or helps to lessen the outcome. One must begin to detach oneself from outward attachments. Need attachments, like needing people to like you or love you. When you realize God loves you, it doesn't matter who loves you. Yet, everyone will love you because you will love yourself. You see!

It doesn't matter who sees you as the best or the least. What does matter is how you see yourself, honestly. People can only see you to the extent they can see themselves. So even if you are what they cannot comprehend, they will not believe you: they will not be able to see you. You cannot please other people, you can only please yourself and God. God is the only one who really knows you, even better than you know yourself.

Fears motivate people to steal, to lie, to cheat, to hide, to run, to hurt others, to hurt themselves, etc. If fears didn't exist there would be no need to lie, to run, or to do anything contrary to truth. Fears are a great motivator toward destructive behavior, and yet, fears were not created for that purpose. Fears were created to motivate you to be challenged to conquer the fear through love. Fear is a test, nothing more. If you give into fear, you fail the test. If you rise above the fear, you pass. You see?